Monday, October 20, 2008

When He Cheats...

Feature article in Yahoo today is about cheating man, and though I had been through with my share of cheating men, I always wonder what looms around their head while they are doing it and after things are done.

Will they just chunk me at the back of some old closet and move on??

Do they ever feel guilty?

Will I feel the same way if I had ever cheated??

I found out the reasons they brought up quite.....hmmm....fascinating....

Note : statistics is obtained from the article.....if you want to learn more click the link above.

48% of men rated emotional dissatisfaction as the primary reason they cheated.
When it comes to us ladies, when we are not satisfied, it shows. We normally bring it up, talk it over, find some other means to fix it....but men cheats?But it does makes sense that when a man is unhappy with something, they seek the same thing elsewhere. Its classic cheating excuse....sigh....

66% of cheating men report feeling guilt during the affair
Hahahahah.That is good to know...that eventhough they cheat, it's eating them up inside. Sometimes we may give up hope that they're just such jerks with no emotions and feeling but I suppose there is a line somewhere there where they could actually feel something....

77% of cheating men have a good friend who cheated
This I know pretty well . In fact, the ex who cheated me has 4 best friend, in which 3 out of 4 cheated their then girlfriend/wife.

40% of cheating men met the other woman at work
Hmmm...I suppose that is pretty understandable. Most of us spend more than 50% of our waking lives in an office, and even after, we spend more time with our collegues after work to socialise. It's just a matter of time that one of us will be charmed with certain kind of attention/affection/admiration etc that we lack from our partners...

Only 12% of cheating men said their mistress was more physically attractive than their wife
This fact stunned me. Almost more than 50% of men I knew who cheated cheats their partner with someone else way unattractive....which is surprising because we alway thought its the physical attraction that makes men cheat most of the time. Not that I am being biased by saying that the so-called mistress is an ugly slut, its just a fact from my observation that in most cases, their partner IS actually more attractive than their mistress.

Maybe be hitching with someone less attractive they will be less demanding...or is it just the less attractive ones are the ones left to scurry over someone else's hubby????

Only 6% of cheating men had physical intimacy with a woman after meeting her that same day or night.
The articles say that the cheating only happens when they have gone past the knowing each other stage...and that we ladies can actually detect the changes in our men that signals potential cheating...

And that we usually queried...and they will brush it off because to them its not cheating (yet) if none of them had gone intimate.

*yeah, by the time they are intimate it will be too late!*

And when we found out that they have cheated what should we do???

Hmmm...I suppose there is no absolute answer to that question. We can only make best of the position we are in, look into our options and go on with our best available choice and hope for the best.

I believe that women shouldn't succumb to male oppression, and we too have the right to do what's best for our future. We don't need to turn a blind eye and hope everything will go if we don't want to....and we can also make decisions to seek remedy if we want to.

Still, in anything, I believe that it is best that we consider all options thoroughly, and not make rash decisions. Make sure we have a gameplan.

Or we can cheat back.

*wink win*

But if both of us cheats, when will it end?

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