Thursday, January 26, 2012

On being (over) confident under your own skin

I am a true believer that you should love your body despite whatever the size it's in. Being a person who had crazily yo-yo'ed from one size to another within a short period of time, I understand truly well how being (slightly) overweight (or not) might have an impact to one's self-esteem. Being overweight (or commonly termed as fat, no offense, but we excessively use the word everyday anyway) may at times makes us feel under the blues, more overly lessen our self-esteem.

Ye la, if you're not comfortable under your own skin, sampai bila nak downgrade diri sendiri tak? We should be more empowered and willing to try new things, despite whatever people say. Because we matter, not them.

Yes, we tell that to ourselves every single bloody day. Sigh.


I truly admire people who loves their body and carries them well in thick or thin. They are truly courageous and exudes the self-confidence admirable to both old and young. Being confident allows them to push boundaries and do things just like every one else - without shame or guilt or fear. Being in a certain size shouldn't limit a person's ability to interact,communicate with others or do things they wish to do.

But then, hiking confidence level tak bertempat, is it acceptable?

Dressing up with confidence is not simply a matter of dressing up in every possible garment available. It should be dressing up with grace and dignity and being able to look good in it no matter the size and shape. Of course, being in a certain (plus) size (like me....huargh!!!! ngaku jelah!!!) might limit the available dressing option, but then it doesn't mean that there's nothing in fashion that you can't put on. We should be more tasteful in choosing fashion that compliments our body shape (figure hugging at the right places), colors that compliments our skintone/hair color or perhaps shoes that makes us taller/fancier.

Sebab what's the point if you put on a dress but it makes your boobs look as if its sagging? Or you put on skinny jeans when it makes you look like a log, when a bootcut simply makes you look curvacious? Or put on a top too tight (coz you love the color so much) but all the buttons are screaming its way off?

At the end of the day shoes/clothes/dress/etc are just tools to make us look better. The choice is ours to make ourselves look/feel. good.Given so much choice, why must we push too much to a point that we look like a moving victim by dressing inappropriately? 

Believe me, at times dressing in a Marilyn Monroe look-like dress may at times be inappropriate, given the circumstance.


Its a matter of how much you reveal, perhaps. When you reveal to much a person might end up - hmmm- go figure.At the end of the day no one wants to be a fashion victim, we always want to be elegantly put just like this....


Yes, sexy. Elegant. The right hold at the right curves.

You may go "sexynya pompuan ni" but then even if she has bulges underneath that skirt you won't be able to see it because voila, its demure enough and focus on the cute leg!.

Just saying.

2 comments:

dYnA said...

LovE thiS entRy! yO yO! *seP* mE tOo :)

Zuraida said...

glad u enjoyed it dyna!